Comments on: strip bar/lap dancing query? http://sexypoledancer.com/strip-barlap-dancing-query/ Ask Eva: FAQ's on Pole Dancing, Belly Dancing, Ballroom Dancing, etc. can be found here Sun, 20 May 2012 20:57:54 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.2.1 By: Stellstar http://sexypoledancer.com/strip-barlap-dancing-query/#comment-643 Stellstar Fri, 22 Feb 2008 20:22:02 +0000 http://sexypoledancer.com/strip-barlap-dancing-query/#comment-643 It wouldnt bother me if it was once or twice for a stag do or something, but if he was arranging to go frequently then I wouldnt be happy because he wouldnt be respecting my feelings. Stand up for yourself and how you feel. Don't cry or shout - just tell him how you feel. If he doesnt understand, explain EXACTLY. Both husband and wife's feelings matter in a relationship. Why does he need to go - ask him! It wouldnt bother me if it was once or twice for a stag do or something, but if he was arranging to go frequently then I wouldnt be happy because he wouldnt be respecting my feelings. Stand up for yourself and how you feel. Don’t cry or shout - just tell him how you feel. If he doesnt understand, explain EXACTLY. Both husband and wife’s feelings matter in a relationship. Why does he need to go - ask him!

]]> By: Sam0506 http://sexypoledancer.com/strip-barlap-dancing-query/#comment-642 Sam0506 Tue, 19 Feb 2008 09:58:55 +0000 http://sexypoledancer.com/strip-barlap-dancing-query/#comment-642 YES!! I would go mad if my fiance did this. I totally understand how you feel because i would be the same. Try talking to your hubby and tell him that you dont like it and how it makes you feel. If he refuses to stop going you could always go and see some male strippers!! See what its like for him to have the shoe on the other foot! YES!! I would go mad if my fiance did this. I totally understand how you feel because i would be the same. Try talking to your hubby and tell him that you dont like it and how it makes you feel.
If he refuses to stop going you could always go and see some male strippers!! See what its like for him to have the shoe on the other foot!

]]> By: hotteacher106 http://sexypoledancer.com/strip-barlap-dancing-query/#comment-641 hotteacher106 Sun, 17 Feb 2008 16:19:27 +0000 http://sexypoledancer.com/strip-barlap-dancing-query/#comment-641 I have no problem with this.. In fact a few years ago I went with him to a strip bar..He has not gone in a few years...but if he ever did go back I wouldnt care I have no problem with this.. In fact a few years ago I went with him to a strip bar..He has not gone in a few years…but if he ever did go back I wouldnt care

]]> By: 008 http://sexypoledancer.com/strip-barlap-dancing-query/#comment-640 008 Sun, 17 Feb 2008 08:41:20 +0000 http://sexypoledancer.com/strip-barlap-dancing-query/#comment-640 Grow up and deal with it. If that is all he is doing wrong it is a miracle. In my life experience here are the facts of life: 1. There is no Santa 2. There might be a Bigfoot 3. All men cheat, almost all women cheat 4. Marriage ruins relationships (moving in is the same) 5. Everyone lies (you even lie to yourself) 6. Life is not fair Good luck and Happy Holidays. Email me if you want to hear the truth. You can ask me anything. I don't lie unlike the other answers you will get. Grow up and deal with it. If that is all he is doing wrong it is a miracle. In my life experience here are the facts of life:

1. There is no Santa
2. There might be a Bigfoot
3. All men cheat, almost all women cheat
4. Marriage ruins relationships (moving in is the same)
5. Everyone lies (you even lie to yourself)
6. Life is not fair

Good luck and Happy Holidays. Email me if you want to
hear the truth. You can ask me anything. I don’t lie unlike
the other answers you will get.

]]> By: kim h http://sexypoledancer.com/strip-barlap-dancing-query/#comment-639 kim h Thu, 14 Feb 2008 08:09:17 +0000 http://sexypoledancer.com/strip-barlap-dancing-query/#comment-639 My husband only goes for bachelor parties. I went with him for his 40th birthday. We had a blast. Do not feel inadequate. He is only looking. My husband only goes for bachelor parties. I went with him for his 40th birthday. We had a blast. Do not feel inadequate. He is only looking.

]]> By: LAK http://sexypoledancer.com/strip-barlap-dancing-query/#comment-638 LAK Wed, 13 Feb 2008 10:20:34 +0000 http://sexypoledancer.com/strip-barlap-dancing-query/#comment-638 It's really not a big deal. I used to go with my husband to the clubs and for his birthday one yearl, I bought him a lap dance. That was early on in our marriage and we thought it was a sexy thing to do. Now that we have been married 14 years and have a 7 year old, we just don't have the time or really the interest in those places anymore. Go with him and see what it is about. You may not feel so bad about it and have fun with him. It’s really not a big deal. I used to go with my husband to the clubs and for his birthday one yearl, I bought him a lap dance. That was early on in our marriage and we thought it was a sexy thing to do.

Now that we have been married 14 years and have a 7 year old, we just don’t have the time or really the interest in those places anymore.

Go with him and see what it is about. You may not feel so bad about it and have fun with him.

]]> By: wind champ http://sexypoledancer.com/strip-barlap-dancing-query/#comment-637 wind champ Tue, 12 Feb 2008 13:00:08 +0000 http://sexypoledancer.com/strip-barlap-dancing-query/#comment-637 First you're not going to get him to stop, if he has already been going. He well go regardless and will find a way to get there. This is also about your own insecurities and he should respect that to some degree. I read some answer, "about you giving him a lap dance and he wont go out." That just stupid. This came from a women who head is in the sand, that is a myth. A man wants what he doesn't have. It's not about the act, it's about; "different." He has you he doesn't have these other women. The thrill of the hunt, the chase, not what you already have. If he doesn't stop and respect your wishes then you should leave him, because he will not change and will continue with this and will fight you tooth and nail to continue. he'll go behind your back. This is a battle you can't win. First you’re not going to get him to stop, if he has already been going. He well go regardless and will find a way to get there. This is also about your own insecurities and he should respect that to some degree. I read some answer, “about you giving him a lap dance and he wont go out.” That just stupid. This came from a women who head is in the sand, that is a myth. A man wants what he doesn’t have. It’s not about the act, it’s about; “different.” He has you he doesn’t have these other women. The thrill of the hunt, the chase, not what you already have. If he doesn’t stop and respect your wishes then you should leave him, because he will not change and will continue with this and will fight you tooth and nail to continue. he’ll go behind your back. This is a battle you can’t win.

]]> By: Felicia http://sexypoledancer.com/strip-barlap-dancing-query/#comment-636 Felicia Sat, 09 Feb 2008 05:46:49 +0000 http://sexypoledancer.com/strip-barlap-dancing-query/#comment-636 If it made me feel uncomfortable i wouldn't cope with it. If it made me feel uncomfortable i wouldn’t cope with it.

]]> By: Owen E http://sexypoledancer.com/strip-barlap-dancing-query/#comment-635 Owen E Wed, 06 Feb 2008 07:53:05 +0000 http://sexypoledancer.com/strip-barlap-dancing-query/#comment-635 Tell him if he doesn't stop going to these places that the marriage is over. Married men should not be lusting over half naked woman. If he loves you he will stop going and if he has pron tell him he loses it or he loses you. You not controlling him your just trying to protect yourself from the crap this can bring into a relationship. I have been married over 8yrs and do not do this. I feel it is very disrespectful to the one your with and very degrading to woman in general. That is me though this type of behavior has to stop he is basically saying your not enough for him. This has nothing to do with trust or jealousy you just want a man who can love you and only you. You should not have to cope that part of his life is over he is now married and commited and devoted to you. He needs to be reminded that he is no longer single and you will not stand by a guy that goes to these establishments. God Bless and Best Wishes. Tell him if he doesn’t stop going to these places that the marriage is over.

Married men should not be lusting over half naked woman.

If he loves you he will stop going and if he has pron tell him he loses it or he loses you.

You not controlling him your just trying to protect yourself from the crap this can bring into a relationship.

I have been married over 8yrs and do not do this. I feel it is very disrespectful to the one your with and very degrading to woman in general.

That is me though this type of behavior has to stop he is basically saying your not enough for him. This has nothing to do with trust or jealousy you just want a man who can love you and only you.

You should not have to cope that part of his life is over he is now married and commited and devoted to you.

He needs to be reminded that he is no longer single and you will not stand by a guy that goes to these establishments.

God Bless and Best Wishes.

]]> By: jbn http://sexypoledancer.com/strip-barlap-dancing-query/#comment-634 jbn Sun, 03 Feb 2008 15:43:44 +0000 http://sexypoledancer.com/strip-barlap-dancing-query/#comment-634 I don't care if my husband goes. He has only been a few time since we have been together. It has never bothered me, we have even talked about going together. I don’t care if my husband goes. He has only been a few time since we have been together. It has never bothered me, we have even talked about going together.

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